🌟 My Sri Lankan grandmother’s birthday was yesterday! She would have been 91!!!
She was an amazing woman.
She went to university in Sri Lanka when that just wasn’t all that common.
She raised 7 children. 11 grandchildren and 3 step grandkids. 3 great grandkids!!
She was the head of her household.
Strong and independent.
She is missed! ❤️
💫 My cousin Michelle died of ALS on February 22, 2015.
She was 41.
She was also amazing and wonderful.
She has the biggest heart and the best smile - even when she could barely move because of her condition.
I miss her too! ❤️💜
✨ Rodney’s birthday is tomorrow.
He would have been 53.
He filled the room. He made you feel both giddy and grounded. He was so kind and supportive and good.
I miss him as well! ❤️💜💙
🌈 Katie died on February 14, 2014.
She was one of my dearest and best friends.
I talk about her a lot. I post about her a lot. I miss her a lot.❤️💜💙💛
She has two super fabulous kids - Casey and Maggie - who I see as often as I can. They light up my world! 🤩
Birthdays - Death anniversaries - Life anniversaries - Death days - Life days
We choose how we mark each day.
We choose how to remember and honor our friends and loved ones who are gone.
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by it all.
But it’s also easy to get OVER that feeling of too much - too many feelings all at once.
Pick ONE.
Pick one feeling. One emotion. One memory.
It’s hard at first - but it gets easier with practice.
Train your brain.
Focus on just one memory of the person who is no longer here in body but is always here in your memory.
Laugh or cry or smile.
Feel that one emotion deeply and completely - let it overwhelm you- it’s ok to allow that.
Feel it and then release it.
Let it go.
Watch it as it flys off into the sky or to the ceiling or out of the room.
Feel yourself relax as that sensation, that emotion, that feeling leaves you.
You can choose to feel another memory.
Or you can choose to do something else.
It is actually up to you.
Even if a smell or a place or a song triggers a visceral memory or feeling or emotion- YOU choose what happens next.
You can focus on it and FEEL it or you can say
“NOPE! - not right now!! I’m busy!!! I will come back to you later!” and fully feel and experience that moment another time.
We are all rather adept at COPING.
At pushing off a difficult moment to a later time. Postponing the sadness or hurt to a more convenient hour.
HOWEVER
Many of us never allow those moments their due.
Give yourself the time to grieve.
Just as you give yourself time to laugh and love.
Set aside time to mourn and cry.
We all feel better after a good cry.
We also feel better after a raucous belly laugh.
Be sure and schedule those in too!!!
😂🤣😂
What subway do pirates take?
The Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
(*Groan* I know I know - TERRIBLE)
(But hopefully you are smiling now)
Enjoy the rest of your day!!😘
Love Love Love Love!!!!!!